1) Shes never on your side. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 16:40. And again, why ask me to come back to him if he still can't DO that? That's not even in my nature. I had to call my mother to take me.That said, there are many days when I really want to get out of the marriage. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Or begging him to drive you home. I can understand mentionin #1. I would blame him for screwing up mine. Of course, I got no help from him with ANYTHING for the 6 weeks my foot was in the cast. I can not tell you how much I can relate to you and everyone else that has posted. If she's sick, and the kids need something, she's on her own. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. (again, fear). And when things happen to the kids the "mom" is always like I didn't know he would do that to our kids and abuse them even though I did. I've told our kids that THEY will be in charge of me if I ever get cancer or something like that. They were on their lunch break at the time, and went back to work - taking the automatic transmission car and leaving me with the manual. He made me pay that year for leaving. But we are talking about a lack of engagement here, right? Stay away from me!" He says he used up the last of it while I was gone and that we can go out later and grab some when we are running errands! Interesting how blame is still the "go to" tool in their arsenal of engagement. I left work early and took them to hospital, tended them there, brought them home and generally took care of as much as I could to keep them comfortable and on the way to mending throughout. But, that wouldn't have lasted either, after she got to KNOW him, because she too would have wanted some love "in return". Those of us who marry into it, with the person NOT thinking their ADHD is that big of a deal, create a lot of consequences for themselves AND for us, since in marriage "two become one". Maybe he's dated someone like that. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. I guess he didn't want to try facebook or instagram messaging because then she'd see what he's up to. This goes so deep. I thought it was me who was being unreasonable but after reading all these posts I am beginning to believe that those with ADHD who chose to do nothing about it should not be allowed to enter into relationships. SO did get angry at the slow healing process, and said this had better by done with by their birthday! Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. Yes, the victim mentality and what you said is so true. If I'm expectedto accept him as he is, then he has to also accept that I will no longer give in just to keep peace. He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. He then proceeded to rip me a new one, in front of his parents. Life goes on, until Im better. I got a friend to help, the truck, got a place to go, separated the bills (still paid his cell and medical in case he went to therapy), wrote a letter and tired to live with him without acknowledging his last tantrum, my pain and still having sex and accepting his hugs and sucking up to me and trying not to cave or vomit. Submitted by sickandtired on Fri, 12/11/2020 - 08:44. If anything, I am stronger in your eyes. I wish you the best. So yes, I was sick and I gave myself the day and decided to go to work where I am around normal people that dote on me. I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. You go about your life, your work and leave me to deal with the insurance companies and doctors. Become a Mighty contributorhere. Nearly 17% were estranged from a member of their immediate family. No words. Unreal. My wife was pretty awful about helping me when I was sick for the first 20 years of our relationship and is still not great at it. Yep. Of course my Hcalled right back saying he could not hear his phone(yet his friend heard his on the 2nd ring). He called me unsubmissive and unchristian. I was trying to do something simple. It was miserable. I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. That's his job. A perfect opportunity to "prove" himself right ~ WRONG! He loves, smoking, drinking, games, cars, machines, jokes and flirting. They'll let me be to recuperate, since they know it's nasty. Several years ago they broke their foot (minor avulsion fracture) by twisting their ankle, requiring several weeks with a boot and wrap to recover. I handle everything around the house, she And for this, I am truly, deeply sorry. I pretend I am single and take care of me and my home for me. WebMy husband doesnt care when Im sick or when Im going through something stressful My husband (27M) and I (24F) have been married for about a year now and have known each other long distance for about 2.5 years. Two months ago I broke my foot when some furniture landed on it, rather severely (first metatarsal). He played video games.A LOT, and watched a lot of movies, and cook his food in deep fryers which has made the house smell like an old dirty grease pit, with the cupboards, shelves, and countertops, floors, all caked with grease. Well, yes, I have an Autoimmune condition that causes it. You know all the important things. You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. So it's easier when you can say, "ok 20% sucks if I let it but 80% is fabulous". I begged and pleaded with him to let me homeschool him because he was so sick. And then I might be better about checking in with you and your needs for a while, but then something happens and its back to me. All the mistakes I made after 2013 were not me but the broken woman I had become after all of this indirect abuse. Being in a constantly defensive state (as are the chronic blamers of the world) means ADHD adults can become really good at detachingand awful at attaching. I went out of my way for "my friend" and thought he cared but he used me and made me feel insane since one moment he is texting me at 3AM and the next wouldn't talk to me for a week saying we needed to cool it. I was a great person, still am as are you. I only wanted to make things easier on myself, for three nights a week. Talking to a friend may be helpful, but you might also consider discussing your feelings with a mental health professional. Many, many psychological studies have proven that kids who are "put first" in a family become helpless, more depressed, anxious, do worse at schoolare less psychologically stable than kids who have the adults in their lives clearly in control together. Reach out in an inviting way. You should probably be checked out by a doctor. I hope you left him. All big red flags. You are not important. We've never broached this subject before and I'm worried about it ending up in a fight. What? I will keep that in mind. And your wife mightve been H, has two basic emotions, FEAR and ANGER. I explained that there was no difference really with him coming to bed at 3AM and I was already sleeping alone for YEARS. Right now I'm back at the house trying to get some stuff in order. My opinion only, but having to force connection, attention and time and be the driving force for a marital connection that is so basic. well, that seems hollow to me also. (Sadly, he was not compliant enough with the whole thing and it didn't work). I understand what you mean. Ihave neglected you. Alright. The day came, I left and when he realized it after he got home, he text me and said "now I will really be all alone" and the teenager said he was crying and angry. We went to the diner and my life changed. Life goes on around us when we are sick. When you marry, the two working, bill-paying adults in the house should set the important stuff togetherlike budget, schedule, vacations, house rules. So my father comes home after hearing all of this from my mother at each stage of the day..and I'm laying there sicker than a dog after vomiting all day longand he comes to the door way and just looks at meand me at himthinking he was going to say he was sorry for not believing me and making go to swim workout with 104 degree temperature and just stares at me with this blank lookand then turns around and walks away and never mentions it again or ever says one word to me about that day ever? I was in bed all day too weak to get up and walk let alone do anything else. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. He was disgusted. There's lots of reasons he may have decided to not come over, and 99% of them aren't the selfish stuff you're thinking of. I shouldn't have to and I take very good care of myself after 27 years and a complete role reversal. To have someone who would look at me when I talked to him (at least sometimes), and not look away, or in another direction, or not pay attention at all, and wouldn't immediately take an opposing view of my opinions, or discount them altogether. Don't get me wrong. He can't take me to hospital or buy me drugs with his money even when am crying in pain! Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. Press J to jump to the feed. By then its too late. If your betta lives in an unfiltered setup youll need to completely change his water and clean his tank weekly. I am ok. You may want to reflect on your needs when you are sick as an adult. Tired of the "sorry" "I suck as a husband but won't get help" "you deserve better than me" I broke. He love(s) the one he is with..as in.."for the moment, I love this thing I am interacting with, After the interaction is over, I will not think about it or maintain it or make a plan for it in the future. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? Maybe a spouse is a lousy caregiver, or just as sick if not sicker; maybe you never noticed till now that certain local family members are better at receiving than giving. I do not think I will see a lasting change because myspousewith ADD is alwaysout for himself. Im the one who is on disability and hasnt worked in two years. etc. I said no. Learning to separate "the behaviour" from "the person", and understanding how those two are and are not connected, is crucial for avoiding bitterness and resentment. I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." I feel like with every post, I am reading about myself. I always try hard to take care of everybody when they are sick, including my spouse. Submitted by vabeachgal on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:25. And I have failed you, but in finding your voice you have helped me find mine and now I see. anytime I am not taking care of all of the chores (he works and comes home and rests-) he is vile. The house is in shambles, and is a complete mess everywhere you look.It looks like I stepped into a scene from "Hoarders", the television show. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while If it's me first? I haven't been yelled at once while expressing myself. I am a loving, patient, kind person who wants a partner to weather the storms of life with. I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. So, again, it's about him. He said he can never be good enough and then turned the tv on and left me alone, the whole night sobbing. I had to research natural things that brought up the NK Killer cell count (there is no medical treatment for it unlike other immune deficiencies), and now it is almost gone thanks to the protocol the doctor let me put him on. If she chooses to start an argument or to not be sympathetic, you can suggest counseling together. I like the don't be upset if I pull a you on you comment. After my surgeries, I couldn't do ANYTHING. It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. Like I was some animal in the Zooand he was just coming to see the specimen out of curiosity. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I was about to turn 40 and here I was watching a grown man turn red in the face, speak horribly to himself for a broken scraper. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy, but, if it is, your life partner should be #1, then the kids. Some people wait until the water is visibly murky before performing maintenance on the tank. When my husband started his first affair, I WAS a good woman. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. this was my question. Press J to jump to the feed. "He worked all week ~ he's Tired and Deserves to Rest"!!! Really? That is my H 100%! He told I just had the flu and went to bed. He threatened to sue me and the doctor because the kid had to go temporarily on multiple antibiotics to help knock down the infections. She says take medicine or go to doctor. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. An epiphany. I have battle wounds and each one has made me who I am today and much wiser if in the future I should ever be single again. Its pretty normalized at the point. Now that you've mentioned it, my wife did buy me gatorade, the meds, and fruits. WebI love my wife. WebNow I'm going to get sick! I couldn't handle it. I, ME, MINE!! I am the best thing he has ever had. Yeah, I remember when she was sick and I was doing everything for her as I just let her rest. Then, why the * are they looking for a life partner in the first place?. It sucks but thats what it is. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to My SO is inconsistently caring and compationate - the overriding theme of when they are not has to do with feeling frustrated and overburdened by yet another thing they have to deal with. Imagine that. Blank. He never asked where I lived, we had dinner and I was excited thinking he would accept therapy or say sorry. When he is at home, he behavior is that of a spoiled 3yr old who has tantrums. Well, to be frank, that will vary from person to person as we all display love in different ways. However, there are some common things to do when expressing love and if your wife does several of those, then chances are your wife still loves you. Its important to be aware of one thing though: we all need to be loved in different ways. Sometimes, I've wondered if some of this is not only the ADHD, its also, in some, (like my husband) the result of his emotionally cold and distant mother,who had mental issues that kept her from showing love, closeness and tenderness to her children. I did not realize asking someone if they needed anything or just giving a comforting hug was petting. I agree with Truth..his kids come first. When I got to the ER and they did a CAT scan, they said it was about to burst. Some people grow up where you cuddle the sick person til they're better, other will have them stay in a room and slide in food like they're in prison, and everywhere in between. Ask for forgiveness. Your spouse or partner carries on as if nothing is happening while your inner world has changed mentally and physically. I come first now. I start my day with positive thoughts of not retaliating, not overthinking, and not trying to change what I can't control. If you need help, I will cook dinner". WebA female reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 November 2011): It doesn't mean that he doesn't care. My wife wants to be left alone, and I mean ALONE. Oops! (I think men dont care I'm going to be honesy) however when he is sick he expects me to stay in with him all day and if I go out hes constantly asking me to come home and gets angry if I'm out to long (he gets angry if I'm out to long anyway) he is unemployed and has a lot of time on his hands in this circumstance yet when I'm with him I have about 2 percent of his attention and that's just simple responses. Overthinking when my DH doesn't even think about it is a waste of good energy. But I believe I am blessed with many friends. When I am sick I want to be left alone, just let me sleep it off. And, when I'm not 100%, then he's not being cared for. Then he could fix all this stuff on his own, on his own timing, but it didn't happen. Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. I have loved you for a long time, and we have been through so much together, but what Ive recently learned is this: You could care less about my illness. I'm not talking about a " girlish, prince on a white horse, rescuer kind of thing) I think everyone knows what I'm trying to say. I have learned from him that I have always mothered him and even though I am awesome, I have given so much with littleeffort in return because he is hyperfocused on his priorities. My husband believes he's Mr. Fix-It, and can fix anything. This detachment causes children to grow up detached from making intimate friendships and relationships as an adult, to closely love others. He just gets on his computer. I was recovering from major surgery ~ he saw it that I had 6 weeks off from work! Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. Was she sick recently and you didn't pay attention? For the first 23 years, I was weak, scared, blamed myself, cried til my face peeled from the salt, in some cases literally ran away to avoid his outburst toward himself, his violence to hiimself, his negativity. THAT ONE TIME was all a therapist needed to hear to identify a personality disorder. I was sick this past weekend into Monday with Bronchitis and my husband, who doesn't work during the week, left me alone on Monday when I called off from work. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. Thanks, man. He didn't take me to the hospital, just put me back to bed. God, family/friends, my job, my health and then him. If you talk about how he's not connecting with you and that's disappointing to you, the issue is HIM. yuck. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 18:15. He is so sick and depressed. If this happens once, it may not be a huge cause for concern. Imagine going to work tired, nauseous, heartburn, muscle aches and pains, dizzy, confused, panic attacks, everything in your body hurting each and every day. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity. Out of character. not good. Consequences. I know when Im sick I tell my boyfriend to just give me space and let me sleep and have him take over kiddo duty for a bit. Partners are supposed to have each others backs, even when it doesnt seem like the best thing to do. But know that people can take a while to be retrained to react differently. I like what Melissa said earlier, about becoming the person our husbands fell in love with. I drink a gulp of beer and a stoke of cigar and really feel love..for that moment. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). He got mad at me because I went to grab the phone charger in the wall and didn't see it was connected to his phone (I needed to have a phone with me if I had to drive myself to the hospital in the middle of the night), he snapped at me that I am always in pain and should rent a hotel room in the hospital, etc, etc, and threw a different charger at me. Need help with your relationship? Get out now and look for greener pastured. Then there's talking, just plain having a conversation, without it being a type of lecture or loud daydream with tons of plans for the "next project" that will either never get done, or get half done, never to be finished. Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. But god forbid he do anything out of his way for me. Then came 2013, January. This is a great take. Its an open concept house and he's painted the walls all different colors, but again, half done. I often hear that if a person wants to be with you, they will. I would have been down on my kneesbegging for forgiveness.for making me go swimming with 104 degree temperatureand not believing me or showing the concern when I was told that I was sick and didn't feel well? This is not ok. His sister died from alcoholism about 8 years ago, she was only 51. Best of Luck to you all and I look forward to reading your story. You know, a "special" love. Submitted by kellyj on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 14:18. If there's not arguments over dumb shit then something is wrong. ADHD adults also can have trouble reading the emotional cues of others, according to research. And, to feel loved in return, you need to be sexual with each other. out of the basement and towards you) and that ADHD symptoms are poorly managed. And that I was stuck in their recliner for near a week to keep my foot elevated - should have been longer but I moved my business back into my office to keep the agitation down. I don't think this is necessarily an ADHD thing. I am a Marvel hero, as you have said. There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. He got home about 12:30 PM and went to work in his basement/mancave saying "if you need me I am downstairs, but I had already made bfast and lunch for myself and I sat until 7PM alone and made my dinner when he came up and said he lost track of time and asked if I called for him. You are very caring and shower her with affection and loveYou respect her parents and treat them wellYou respect your wife and support her to achieve her dreamsYour presence makes her feel happy (because she loves you so much)She considers you as her soulmateShe feels safe and secure to be with youShe trust you so muchMore items But still had to call SO to bring me a pair of shorts because the doctor was afraid my pants wouldn't be able to come off around the knee-high wrappings; SO was impatient on the phone, frustrated and impatient at the clinic, and upset about having their evening ruined after a long day. But still, if I do get sick and need something, he's there, doing whatever. That's my two bits and I'm sticking too it. I could barely limp about and it was rapidly getting worse. I am a partner though, specifically yours. ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? Germaphobe type thing? I could reclaim myself so to speak and put myself out there in the relationship but unless my H admits to the effects of adhd in the marriage and takes concrere steps tofix it, I don't expect another outcome. Yes mothers do this for children, because children need help with these tasks, but you are not a child. I would not be happy with the scenario you outlined. Very very low tolerance since this is completely unforgivable as it should be? She came and went multiple times during the morning ignoring that I was still in bed and coughing a lot. If you want to connect with your partner the 'trick' is two fold. Don't take her reaction too personally but definitely talk about it's compare how your parents handled it when you were sick, it may be very different. (sorry, another vent) .. So,when it comes to love, what to do, and where to go from here. (Daddy issues?). A therapist can help you evaluate the factors that have led you to this step and then offer advice about how to best proceed. With my dh, he doesn't react well to any kind of situation when his filters are down (and always always at home) -- there was that time when I fell against a window in a freak accident -- breaking my humeris and dislocating my shoulder on the radiator at the same time. You dont care about my illness. You also don't have a role model to teach or even show you HOW to connect. 50K views, 259 likes, 10 loves, 511 comments, 68 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Dr. Phil: He Eats a Raw Animal Meat Diet #rawmeat #DrPhil #talkshow When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. 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